You are not a boomerang...

You are not a boomerang. You do not have to go back to any person who threw you away. You have a choice. You can go back to someone who tossed you and the relationship away. Or you can keep moving, and you can go forward instead of backward. You don't owe anyone a second chance, and no one automatically deserves another chance to treat you badly. You can and should forgive them, no matter what they did, no matter how they treated you. But forgiveness doesn't mean that you're obligated to invite them back into your life for more of the same. And it doesn't mean that you're obligated to go back to them, even if they have "changed." Forgiveness can be given privately within yourself, and you can forgive someone completely without ever having to see or speak to them again. You don't even owe anyone the words "I forgive you." If you decide to go back to someone who mistreated you, or allow someone back into your life and heart again, you do this knowing full well that you're giving them the opportunity to hurt you again (and again and again). You have to decide whether they deserve that opportunity and whether you deserve any negative consequences from giving anyone who's already chosen to treat you badly and wrongly that opportunity again. Ultimately, you are responsible for the results, consequences and repercussions of your decision. Make sure your decision is one you want to -- and can -- live with, because you will have to live with it.