Take charge of yourself, and only yourself, if you want peace and harmony in your life. You're really the only person that you're completely in charge of anyway, so you might as well concentrate on what you can do instead of what you can't do.
You simply cannot control anyone other than yourself. Others will do what they want and what they choose to do, and they will sometimes cause situations that affect you in a less-than harmonious way. You can get angry about something that happens to you or something that someone does or says, but anger usually solves nothing and changes nothing for the better, and unresolved anger just makes you feel even worse inside on a deep, fundamental level. What others do is largely not up to you. How you experience something that happens is largely up to you. You can be angry, which on a deeper level is an expression of something else: sadness, resentment, frustration, fear, insecurity, and so on. Or you can search yourself deep down inside and find what's really bothering you about the situation -- which is within you -- and fix it, so you don't have to keep experiencing it. What you don't look for, find, acknowledge, work on, strengthen, and heal within yourself, you will simply re-experience again and again until you yourself fix it.
On a calm day, the ocean's surface looks smooth and tranquil. Somewhere underneath the surface, either just below or far below, sharks are swimming, and they can't be seen be the human eye. Sharks are potentially dangerous to us, and they live only to feed on what's weaker than them, and to breed. Just because we don't see them, doesn't mean they don't exist and aren't swimming silently and invisibly somewhere below. We see the sharks with our own eyes only when they swim up and break the ocean's surface or when we ourselves go down deep beneath below.
The same can be said of the personal issues we have -- which are our individual dangers and liabilities that jeopardize our personal peace and harmony -- that cause us to feel angry. We only know what is truly bothering us, what is truly preventing us from experiencing peace and harmony in our lives, when we are provoked to anger because something happens to us or someone does or says something that brings up bad feelings that come to the surface of our awareness of them.
Anger is only the evidence of the sharks that swim below the surface of how you look, how you act and how you speak on the outside. Only you know or can find what's really bothering you down deep inside on a fundamental level. What's bothering you isn't being angry, and it isn't the exact thing that someone did that's bothering you. It's why you're bothered that's the thing that's really bothering you. It's what's making you feel angry: sadness, resentment, frustration, jealousy, fear or insecurity, etc.. Repair and strengthen the parts within you that cause you to be bothered. Anything that's bothering you and affecting your ability to have peace and harmony in your life, is really YOU, and how you're experiencing your personal experiences. When you realize that, you realize you have great power that you can use or not use as you choose.
Give up the control of others and focus on going deep below your surface, and fixing and strengthening yourself. When you're strong, and have peace within yourself, very little outside can disrupt that peace and harmony inside you. Everything that makes you feel angry is an invitation to go deeper, and when you go deep and heal what's really bothering you. Nothing will bother you when you are so strong, peaceful and harmonious inside that you can't be bothered by anything that happens outside.
You simply cannot control anyone other than yourself. Others will do what they want and what they choose to do, and they will sometimes cause situations that affect you in a less-than harmonious way. You can get angry about something that happens to you or something that someone does or says, but anger usually solves nothing and changes nothing for the better, and unresolved anger just makes you feel even worse inside on a deep, fundamental level. What others do is largely not up to you. How you experience something that happens is largely up to you. You can be angry, which on a deeper level is an expression of something else: sadness, resentment, frustration, fear, insecurity, and so on. Or you can search yourself deep down inside and find what's really bothering you about the situation -- which is within you -- and fix it, so you don't have to keep experiencing it. What you don't look for, find, acknowledge, work on, strengthen, and heal within yourself, you will simply re-experience again and again until you yourself fix it.
On a calm day, the ocean's surface looks smooth and tranquil. Somewhere underneath the surface, either just below or far below, sharks are swimming, and they can't be seen be the human eye. Sharks are potentially dangerous to us, and they live only to feed on what's weaker than them, and to breed. Just because we don't see them, doesn't mean they don't exist and aren't swimming silently and invisibly somewhere below. We see the sharks with our own eyes only when they swim up and break the ocean's surface or when we ourselves go down deep beneath below.
The same can be said of the personal issues we have -- which are our individual dangers and liabilities that jeopardize our personal peace and harmony -- that cause us to feel angry. We only know what is truly bothering us, what is truly preventing us from experiencing peace and harmony in our lives, when we are provoked to anger because something happens to us or someone does or says something that brings up bad feelings that come to the surface of our awareness of them.
Anger is only the evidence of the sharks that swim below the surface of how you look, how you act and how you speak on the outside. Only you know or can find what's really bothering you down deep inside on a fundamental level. What's bothering you isn't being angry, and it isn't the exact thing that someone did that's bothering you. It's why you're bothered that's the thing that's really bothering you. It's what's making you feel angry: sadness, resentment, frustration, jealousy, fear or insecurity, etc.. Repair and strengthen the parts within you that cause you to be bothered. Anything that's bothering you and affecting your ability to have peace and harmony in your life, is really YOU, and how you're experiencing your personal experiences. When you realize that, you realize you have great power that you can use or not use as you choose.
Give up the control of others and focus on going deep below your surface, and fixing and strengthening yourself. When you're strong, and have peace within yourself, very little outside can disrupt that peace and harmony inside you. Everything that makes you feel angry is an invitation to go deeper, and when you go deep and heal what's really bothering you. Nothing will bother you when you are so strong, peaceful and harmonious inside that you can't be bothered by anything that happens outside.
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